Who gets invited to the bridal shower?

My wedding has been post poned to next year because somethings were not finished. My matron of hoor was going to give me a bridal shower. She has cancelled it until next year. Who should she inivite. I know she only invited the bridal party her mom and my sister in law. Shouldn't she invited my sister and My Aunt ( My Mom's sister) The flower girl and her mom also ?Should I have say in who comes to my shower?


My sister and Aunt were very hurt not being invited.

Who gets invited to the bridal shower?
Your Maid of Honor should ask you for a list of those you wish to invite. Unless of course it is a surprise. She may have limited funds to give you this party and so it limited the number invited. You should of course address this with her in a non threatening manner and maybe even offer to have a family member assist her with the arrangements.
Reply:She should invite all the women invited to the wedding and whoever else she could think of.
Reply:Depending on how many people you need to invite, you may want to hold a family shower and a friends shower separately. I attended my cousin's family bridal shower, there were tons of people there, and she still had a separate shower held by and attended only by her friends.





Now that it is my turn, I am having a friends only shower. We have a small family and it would've been only the moms, my grandma and that cousin (who I think sucks anyway) invited from our family. My mom gave her approval that they didn't have to be invited, and she'd be the one to suffer that decision since she lives near them and I don't. So friends shower only, it is.





My MOH is hosting my shower/bachelorette and asked me who I wanted to invite, since I had to get their info (from coworkers she doesn't know, since she doesn't work with us). I think you should have input into who is invited. I don't understand why your MOH invited *her* mother but didn't invite your sister?





I imagine the bridal party, including the flower girl and her mother, can be at the shower, but will definitely be at the rehearsal dinner. Maybe that will be good enough for the flower girl and her mom, at least. Bridal showers can get a little adult for a kid young enough to be a flower girl..sometimes they are focused around lingerie or uhm...worse.





Remember that the point of the bridal shower is to "shower the bride with gifts." So gifts are expected (they are not expected of wedding guests), and for a family member to hold the shower is not considered good etiquette since it gives the appearance of the family asking for gifts. Keep that in mind if you like the idea of the separate friends and family showers. Maybe the mother in law-to-be can host the family shower and your MOH can host the friends shower.
Reply:Yes, it is a party for you, so she plans it, gives you a # of seats available and you get to fill those seats. You family %26amp; friends are the # 1 on the invite list. Then his family %26amp; friends. Then she can have a few friends if there is room left over. It is YOUR day.
Reply:Whoever is hosting should be consulting with you on who should be invited. It should include women from both sides - yours and your bfs. The moms, grandmas, aunties, siblings and sisters-in-law, female attendants, close friends...
Reply:You should not have a say in who is invited to your shower. The hostess gets to decide that.





However, everyshower that I have ever been to has included every woman invited to the wedding.





How anyone can give a shower without inviting the bride's sister is beyond me.
Reply:If it is to be a small shower then close family and the bridal party should be invited. If a larger one, then all the women on the guest list should be invited.





So to answer your question yes your aunt and the flower girl and her family should have been invited. Maybe your maid of honor really doesn't know who should and shouldn't be inivited. If I were you I would definitely talk to her and let her know who you would like to be invited. If you don't feel cofortable doing this, then have your mom or her mom tell her and give your guest list to them.





I am sure it will work out sound sliek she really didn't know what she was doing.





Good luck!
Reply:Perhaps she needs a little help with this one? Why not write a list of all of your female friends and family and then narrow it down to suit the venue. Give her the list and explain how important these people are to you and are looking forward to their company at your shower.


Best wishes
Reply:You should invite your bridal party, mother, sisters, sister-in-laws, future mother-in-law, all grandmothers (both sides), close friends, and family (including aunts, cousins, ect..) it's in your honor invite who you want. If expense is an issue for her, let the bridesmaids chip in.
Reply:Yes, she should have. Your family is just as important, if not more, than hers. Tell her to knock it off, it's your wedding, and you will okay the guest list, if you please!!!





She was rude and inconsiderate to exclude them. Maybe you should reconsider your Matron of Honor.
Reply:yes i would giver her a list with names and addresses that you would like to attend and ask her if this is feasible
Reply:I'm from New York and our bridal showers are BIG...just about any female in your family and your grooms family is invited... as well as female friends...if they're invited to the shower, they're invited to the wedding, and usually vice-versa.
Reply:What a bizarre concept!





We don't do this in the UK , it's hard enough getting the actual wedding guests to buy anythng decent.





We have Hen Nights out. All the wedding party females go out and watch the chippendales or similar, or worse!





Baby showers seem to be catching on in the UK at the moment, I have been to one!!





You Americans. Weird man. You love spending money.
Reply:Any female involved in the wedding should be invited. It is up to the party giver to ask for a list of people you want to invite. If she hasn't asked for it, just send her an email list and say, "Oh, I forgot to mention that these ladies are also involved in the wedding, and I'd feel rotten if we couldn't invite them.. Is there room to accommodate them?" She may just not have known everyones name and address. She really should have asked, but it's not too late to let your matron of honor know about the changes you'd like made to the list. Any female relative or friend is eligible as a guest. Your matron of honor may have only made an innocent mistake. If she wants to keep it small, she should ask you your choice of whom to invite. It is your wedding, after all, and you deserve to have your friends celebrate with you.
Reply:There should be whoever you feel comfortable with, whoever you want to invite. It shouldn't just be up to your matron of honour though, it's your wedding, make it yours. Don't leave yourself open to regrets. Make sure you invite everyone YOU want to your bridal shower.
Reply:It is my understanding that in a "female only" bridal shower (some people go co-ed) you are to invite: the mothers of the both bride and groom, siblings of both bride and groom, close female relatives of bride and groom, the bride's side of the bridal party and any other close female friends of the bride. I feel she should have invited your sister and your aunt to the bridal shower. I believe you should have a say in who attends a party being throw in your honor, but if your matron of honor is paying for everything it could be a quite touchy subject inviting more people than she can afford. I would sit down and explain your feelings in a kind manner and see if you can come to medium.
Reply:In Scotland it's courtesy to invite all female guests to the bridal shower, In Scotland if I understand your terminology it's called a show of presents.





Hey Scary, You call us Scot's tight fisted.
Reply:oh my gawd, how could she not have invited your sister, that's is so hurtful !
Reply:All immediate family should be invited. You are correct. Perhaps she could not afford it. A shower can be expensive. Offer to help pay or have your mom offer.
Reply:A bridal shower should include any or all of the female friends of the bride, ALL the female family members of both the bride and the groom (and in rare cases close female friends of the groom).





As the bride, you absolutely should have complete say in WHO gets invited to your shower. If she is not going to go along with you.. Let your sister know this wasn't your idea and you tried and get your sister to have a different shower/more normal one for you.