Silk flowers?

Do you guys think silk flower arrangments for a wedding will be tacky. I am getting married in 2 mths and my fiancee's mom is planning everything. She happens to love silk flowers... I want real flowers for the myself and the bridal party... but for the centerpieces she will probably do silk.. I don't want to make too many demands because she is paying 100% of all the costs. What do you think??

Silk flowers?
There are some very nice, and somewhat more expensive than real bouquets, silk flowers out there. Look at the flowers with her and see what you like and don't like. I don't think you'll have too many arguments about what you carry down the aisle. Depending on the flowers you want those can be relatively cheap to create with real flowers.
Reply:silk flowers are the epitome of TACKY........i understand that shes paying but you can get REAL Flowers for cheap......so do a bit of research and see what flowers are in season and what florist can give you a good deal....it is short notice but believe me you WILL not regret it.....you might as well have no flowers if you gonna have silk ones.....
Reply:I have a personal perferance for real, especially for upclose florals,...bridal party, table centerpieces.


Alter pieces, no one will ever know.


We've done mixes of real and fake. With really good fake flowers (which cost as much as real) you can't hardly tell the difference.


She may not be capable of doing or incorporating real flowers. Much more time consuming, has to be done later in the timeline, especially if you don't have proper storage (most individuals don't).


So if you're not willing to pay to have someone do the fresh, you may have to settle with the artifical. If so you can ask to be included in the floral selection. However, if you choose higher qualilty artifical florals, than what you MIL is preparing to spend, you should be willing to help cover some of the cost.





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Reply:Compromise! I am in the same situation. Not about the mother-in-law but the flowers. I am making the centerpeices with silk flowers myself and getting real flowers for the bridal party bouqets. (sp)
Reply:Than make everything silk except for what you are carring.
Reply:Silk flowers ARE NOT tacky, I used silk flowers and noone knew they were silk, My bouquet was even silk and unlike real flowers I have them hanging in my house since 1/21/06 and they just need a little dusting every now and again. They look and Feel VERY real and you can even keep them unlike real flowers if they show up and they look a little brown or have spots, the silk ones dont they look perfect al for a perfect wedding. I would not have done it any other way. It was even my mother in laws idea. So now I can keep them forever. I would go see some at the flower store. you would be amazed on how similar they look..


BUT do Remember it is YOUR wedding NOT ANYONE elses. I made the mistake of listening to everyone instead of saying no this is what i want, my wedding was NOT what i wanted and sad thing is I can't go back and change it.
Reply:Silk flowers are very tacky girl!


I think its better she buys the real thing- or she will make YOUR wedding look very cheap !


Remember this is YOUR day. Although she is paying for everything, when people remember how old time your decorations look, they wont remember your fiancee's mom, they will remember YOU and they will remember how cheap all the decorations looked!!





Trust me, invest in some clean lines, like glass vases and candles. These will look much prettier!
Reply:good quality silks are so lifelike it is hard to tell the difference, so in answer to your question, no - silk flowers do not have to be tacky looking!


they also will stand up better than real flowers so for the table i don't think silks are that bad an idea. if you want your flowers to be real flowers then you are just going to have to bite the bullet and tell her that.


why does she want silk? is it due to costs? if so, then perhaps you could suggest that your bridal party bouquets be real flowers but that you could have smaller bouquets? maybe that would be a good compromise.


what this day is supposed to be about is you are marrying the man you love, and who loves you. all that matters is your vows to each other at the alter. the rest of it? the wedding decor, reception, gowns, all of it isn't important - its all frosting on the cake!





good luck sweetie, have a wonderful life!
Reply:As long as they are good silks you won't be able to tell and will even have a keepsake for your home. My stepmom's came from Hobby Lobby and were gorgeous, you wouldn't know they were not real unless you touched them. Silks can work better for centerpieces anyway because you can have whatever kind of flower you want (including out of season) and not have to worry about wilting.





If you insist on real flowers but her budget does not have room for them then pay the cost diff yourself and get the real flowers. Be grateful she's paying anything, many parents these days don't.
Reply:First - silk vs real:





- if you are talking Dollar Store Silk Flowers, they can look very fake and tacky. If she plans on using good quality silks, they can look wonderful! Silks make a great option for centerpieces because they don't die, don't wilt, and can be arranged in advance instead of the day of.





Now for your future mil - just be honest. You don't have to be demanding - just tell her your preferences and see what she says. The truth is, if she is planning on using good quality silks - real flowers are not generally all that much more expensive so she may be fine with having some real and some silk.
Reply:Maybe you should pay for at least half or all of the wedding if you want things done your way. Silk flowers do last longer. My bridal bouquet was a gift from my parents, and it's made of fake flowers. All the flowers we used were fake. My bridesmaids also have theirs for decorations. Even the boutineers(?) we used were fake flowers, and my husband's now graces our home. No one who used real flowers can say that. And no, they are NOT tacky. People who think they are tacky tend to be materialistic. Anyway, I now use my still in tact after nearly 5 years as a decoration in the master bedroom. Real flowers will wilt and die, and no one can have them years later to reminisce over. Think of it this way. It will symbolize your upcoming union to your man. The fake flowers will last, and so will your marriage. Also, what people remember about your wedding won't be what you wore, ate, the decorations, none of that. What people will remember and cherish is the fun they had and the fact that they could be there to celebrate your marriage. And that's what you'll remember, too.
Reply:How nice to hear a bride actually showing some consideration for her future mother-in-law. Kindly express your desires concerning flowers to her just like you did here. From the sound of it, what she does will be the very best she can do. What a nice way to join your fiancees family.
Reply:That is the problem with someone else paying for the whole thing. They usually dictate what is coming down and there isn't much YOU can say. Do yourself a favor. Elope! I guarantee your future MIL will continue to dictate everything to you from this point onward. Lot's of luck, you're going to need it!