2nd bridal shower next weekend!?

I had my first shower this past weekend. My friends and family that attended were VERY disappointed that I didn't bring my fiance with me!





My fiance wanted to stay home and clean... I also think he didn't want to get up as early as I had to , to leave. It was a 2 hour trip and it started at 11 and the roads were not great as it had been snowing thursday and friday.





I mentioned that he would not be coming to the shower next weekend either (in the town i live in), as his mom and aunt wanted it as just a girl thing. Everyone was appalled. My 80 yr old grandmother proceeded to tell me "Time's have changed, this is for BOTH OF YOU, not just for you, I feel he needs to be there" as well as the women told me the same thing. I felt kind of bad. I was talking to my fiance about it and he said "I'm going to come in later as a 'surprise' and bring you flowers"





lol i told him he didn't have to do that but now he wants to.


Should i let him?


Some of my family will be there next weekend.

2nd bridal shower next weekend!?
I think it's nice when a couple plans to have just the bride at the shower, but the groom shows up toward the end - meets the family and friends, the guests see the two of you interacting and making googley-eyes at each other, etc. - and then he can clean up the eats and help pack up the gifts.


But, ARGH, why did he tell you about the flowers - silly man, he should have kept it a surprise.
Reply:I think it is a fantastic idea and he is very rimantic to bring you flowers. Tell Grandma HOO RAH for her for keeping up with the times.
Reply:now and days Jack and Jill showers are very common therefor yes some may expect to see your future husband. However if the invites are only for females there should not be any surprises.


Why not have him be there to great your quest as they arrive then he can leave while you girls do your own thing, and come back at the end to help you transport gifts and say his thank you's.


I think the idea of him "surprising" everyone is nice and bringing flowers for you is the icing on the cake. If thats what he wants then let him. But do not have him stay the entire time.
Reply:let him that is so sweet. i am having to showers as well because both of our family's are in to states... but his mom doesnt know i know that she is also having one for me.. its supposed to be a surprize. (she sent the invite to my moms house adressed to " G family" so i opened it) my fiance isnt going to either thought.. he feels it more of a women thing..
Reply:My dear future Mrs. H. Your bf is a perfect gentleman. You know (as grandma can verify this) it is tradition that the bf shows up during the shower. This is so that the women can do all their girltalk, not in front of the man. You don't want to embarrass him talking about all those feminine things. But, he is absolutely right to show up a little bit after the party is half over. He should have done that last week too, but maybe the roads were too slippery.
Reply:if everyone insists he be there and your hostess has no objections then why not? i think its cute that he wants to attend the next one!


he says he is going to show up a bit late as a surprise and bring you flowers, if i could make a suggestion, he should bring a flower for every lady there! it can just be a simple carnation, nothing exotic, but you will see every heart melt as he approaches each lady and gives her a flower, and if she is someone special, a quick kiss! he will be a hit! and you will be the envy of every woman there!


have a wonderful shower sweetie, and come back and let us know how it goes! have fun!
Reply:My husband wanted to go to ours. He said that he would have felt bad not being able to say thank you in person to all the people giving us gifts. I thought that was very sweet but the women throwing the shower didn't EXPECT him too.





I think that you should do whatever you think is best and just make sure to tell your family that he is not trying to be rude. He is trying to follow tradition.





I am always shocked by the things that people get upset about. Sometimes you just cannot make everyone happy.
Reply:First of all CONGRATS on your upcomming wedding, this is such an exciting time.


Second, regardless of what time it is you should NEVER feel bad about not having your fiance come to a bridal shower. it's about YOU, the bride.





With that said, if you fiance wants to show up and "suprise" you with flowers...girlfriend, let him!!!!





Infact ANY time he wants to bring you flowers you just smile and say thank you. I think it is a very romantic gesture that he wants to support you. And I am proud(even though I don'y know him) that he is willing to take that step for such an obviously great gal.





You guys seem like an awsome couple.





Ok i have rambled long enough, let him bring the flowers, don't feel bad he is not at all the girl stuff. and as a totally non related tip(im an event planner i can't help it) make sure to bring extra bobbypins, and a tide bleach pin on your wedding day. i have never not needed either at the events i have attened.


hope this helps.