A Bridal Shower! Urgent help is needed!!!?

I need help I am a Jr. Brides maid my Mom is the "Maid of Honner" And my 7 y/o sister is the flower girl. Now, heres the story. The bride (Elanie) asked her sister to be in the wedding and her sister didn't like the idea. So we are the only Bridal Party there is. Then there is Elanies 3 boys. This is the 2nd Marrige. Me and my Mom are deprate!! We don't know when to throw it whether it should be a surprise or not. We aren't related to her soooo we don't know any of here frieds or family!! We (Me and My Mom!) Need ideas and Advice. The wedding is May 26th!! It's coming up soon PLEASE HELP!! What do we do!! NO STUPIT ANWERS PLEASE!!!

A Bridal Shower! Urgent help is needed!!!?
A shower is only given for first time marriages. BUT you could host a small get together with some girlfriends. Speak to her intended husband, he will be able to help you with a guest list. Just her very close friends and family will suffice for this type of party. Have it one Saturday afternoon in your living room. I prefer Surprise showers because sometimes brides cant deal with letting someone else plan something for their wedding, so if she doesnt know aboutthe party you avoid that headache. You could have a theme like honeymoon, or kitchen gadget and people can bring a small gift for her to open, but the focus of the day would be her and her close friends enjoying a nice afternoon with some yummy sandwiches, punch and cake. Remember, it doesnt have to be fancy to be nice for her.





Good luck!
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Reply:Since this is her 2nd marriage. I think a lingere shower would probobly be the most appropiate. Seeing that she has 3 kids, it's assumed she has her house hold established. Lingere showers can be very fun. Just ask her for a list of close family and friends. It doesn't have to be a suprise. You don't have to give her all the details, just ask her for a list of potiental guest. Remember only women who are invited to the wedding are invited to the shower.
Reply:yes... throw her a casual shower... maybe at your mothers house.... ask her fiance for a list of some other ladies that you can invite.... i wouldn't do a suprise... tell her about it and you could even ask her if she has any coworkers she would like have attend..... try doing it on a weekend afternoon... maybe do a bbq or finger foods (mini sandwiches... etc).... good luck... no matter what you do i'm sure she will appreciate it
Reply:It does not matter if she is on her second marriage, if you want to throw a bridal shower go for it!





The only thing is unless you can get a guest list from another family member, the bride/groom would be the only place to go to get invitees.
Reply:Your mother needs to get a list from the bride or the brides mother and soon to be mother in law, and make a list from there.
Reply:I would not give a bridal shower for a 2nd marriage. You and your mom should take her out to dinner or maybe take the money you would spend on a shower and go to a spa and get massages, pedicures and manicures.
Reply:A simple bridal shower is easy to plan, and isn't complicated. Don't make it a surprise, choose a date pretty soon, since it should be at least three weeks to a month before the wedding. I think it's nice when a shower is at someone's home, you just decorate a little bit with streamers and bells, don't have to do anything fancy. Have punch, pop, juice, - wine if you go that way, for the adults. Have some snacks available - like finger foods or fancy sandwiches, a variety of dainties, and some people have a bridal shower cake. Play a few games (do some research online), the bride opens gifts, everyone has a snack and talks. - Usually just a fun, happy time for all the gals to get together - from younger girls to great grandmas.


Ask the bride for a list of people you can contact to invite.


Wish you luck and have fun!
Reply:I see what everyone is saying above, but in my experience, if you tell someone, there is now a 50/50 chance they could refuse. so if you want to maybe get out of it, tell her, but otherwise i really liked 'kateqd30' s advice.
Reply:I have a huge family, so we've had lots of bridal showers. If you want to throw her a shower you will need to involve her since you don't know any of her friends or family. Tell her you would like to throw her a shower if she wants one, and if she does ask her to make a guest list ASAP, there's no need to invite everyone on the wedding guest list if you want to keep it small. Just ask her to make a list of family and friends she would like to invite. There may be relatives on the grooms side that she wants to attend also. It may be a second marriage for her, but if its his first marriage his family may be excited to have the shower. Once she knows she is having a shower she can make a registry somewhere that you can include on the invitations. She also may have family members willing to help plan the shower, so you may want to ask her about that. (The one mentioning if the shower is PG probably was thinking about a lingere shower instead of a regular bridal shower.)
Reply:It doesn't matter if it is her second marriage, you should still do a shower. I would ask the bride for a list of whom she would like invited and numbers. I have done three of them and two of them I did at my home, with finger food, punch, and games. There are tons of games you can play at it, that everyone can participate in. Search on-line for some.


Good Luck!
Reply:Ask Elanie for her mothers phone number and contact her and see if she is planning anything or would like to be included. I'm sure the mom could get a list of everyone that should be invited and give some ideas as so what type of shower you should throw. You should have it no less than 2-3 weeks before the wedding and the invitations should go out at least 2 weeks before the shower so you really need to start planning one now. A surprise BBQ might be a good idea. You could have it at a local park under a pavilion if space is an issue. Good luck!
Reply:My maid of honer wants to throw my bridal shower, but she lives out of town. She asked me what I wanted it to be like and we talked about the possible guests. I was very glad she asked me, now I am getting the exact shower I want!





So, just ask her for a list of the people she wants and discuss it from there.
Reply:I would take her out to a nice dinner and buy her silly gifts for her bridal shower. She will understand that the shower will be rated PG. Maybe bring a cake for "Congratulations".
Reply:If you don't know any of the bride's friends or family, it sounds like a surprise Bridal Shower is out of the question.





Try asking the bride for a copy of her guest list, or even just ask her who she would like at her bridal shower.





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Edit: Some people throw Bachelorette parties, where they might hire a male stripper or have silly party favors. Thus a Bridal Shower for a woman with 3 boys (who will probably be there) might be called a PG party - since there would be no joking about sex and the like.
Reply:Generally, isn't a shower given only for a 1st marriage? I do not think one is necessary given it is a second marriage.
Reply:Flowers! all kinds of colorful flowers, bring some life into it!


That place is gonna smell mmm!!!