Bridal shower!!! Urgent help is needed!!?

**THIS IS FROM A RECENT POSTING OF MINE!!


I need help I am a Jr. Brides maid my Mom is the "Maid of Honner" And my 7 y/o sister is the flower girl. Now, heres the story. The bride (Elanie) asked her sister to be in the wedding and her sister didn't like the idea. So we are the only Bridal Party there is. Then there is Elanies 3 boys. This is the 2nd Marrige. Me and my Mom are deprate!! We don't know when to throw it whether it should be a surprise or not. We aren't related to her sooo we don't know any of here frieds or family!! We (Me and My Mom!) Need ideas and Advice. The wedding is May 26th!! It's coming up soon PLEASE HELP!! What do we do!! NO STUPID ANWERS PLEASE!!!


We don't know any of her Friends srry.


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It's May 1st!! I am going insane! We don't have anything planned. Because, someone died in my family..So it has been tough.. I was thinking it could be just a simple get-together just with her step-mom

Bridal shower!!! Urgent help is needed!!?
first of all take a breather why not make it a surprise and go to the mall and hang there for a little bit and then go and get your nails done and let her get a pedicure and then go some where and eat and share some memories its nice to have a shower but you could make this a time to pamper yourselves and spend time time with her Congrats by the way
Reply:No weddings NEED a bridal shower, its only an added bonus if someone plans it.





And, second marriages can and DO have bridal showers.





As I said before in your previous question, you could always ask the groom or the bride for a list, or her mom if she has the guest list and invite people off of that. OR go ask the bride herself! Sure it won't be a surprise but all she'll know is who is being invited, not where or when or what.
Reply:No, second marriages don't NEED a bridal shower, but then again, really, they aren't required for any wedding.





Make this easy on yourself. A bridal shower is a time for the women in the bride's life to celebrate her. So get the bride on board and throw a party for her. Ask her who she would like to be there, when she's available, and take it from there. Make it casual, make it fun, and don't get hung up on how it is "supposed to be."
Reply:IF you are a junior bridesmaid, you are probably young.


Your mother, as the maid of honour, should be making the call about the party.





If you do not know her friends, approach the bride and let her know that you three, the bridal party, would like to host an informal brunch for her and her friends before the wedding, and you'd like to know who she'd want there. It won't be a surprise, but you'll get a guest list.





It sounds like this wedding is turning into a fiasco, and it sounds like you are mature for your age and taking on more than you should have to. Try not to take the responsibility of the world on your own shoulders. If she has no bridal shower, it is not the end of the world.





sarah
Reply:there has to be someone who knows her friends. Also she has relatives and your relatives. It doesn't have to be a big shower. Small ones are intimate and nice!
Reply:It is true that you don't even have to throw a bridal shower for a bride who is marrying for the second time. So, if you aren't able to plan it, it's not as big of a deal.





Ideally, it should have been no later than last month. You can still pull it off by having a very small gathering of women at your house. Invite the female immediate relatives--mothers, sister(s), and friends--no more than 12. The sisters or mothers can provide some answers.
Reply:2nd marriage do not get bridal showers.
Reply:ask the groom for a list of her friends he should know who she would want there





you can tell her when it is or you can surprise her it doesn't matter much.....i asked my sister who she wanted at her bridal shower and bachlorette party and i found idea's for my sister bridal shower online like games decoration ideas things like that (her wedding is at the end of this summer)





try not to stress out about it you can just have a dinner with the girls keep it simple yet memorable





that's the thing a bride really wants it to have the love and support from her close friends so dont worry if it's not a huge party sometimes 15 people is more than enough
Reply:Don't make the bridal shower a surprise. Ask her to help.


Then she can let you in on her own family and friends that can and will make it. She can also give ideas of the kind of things that she is going to need (gifts and such)





It's a personal preferance if a second marriage gets a bridal shower. If she wants a shower then so be it.





I would include her in this... and you'll get your answers!
Reply:since it is a 2nd marriage you do not need to throw a bridal shower. how about taking the bride out for lunch of dinner instead that way you get to know more about the bride and the wedding plans.
Reply:I would tell her you really want to throw her a bridal shower, but you need to know when she is available and get a guest list with addresses. It doesn't have to be a surprise. Don't stress out about it, I'm sure she will appreciate anything. Maybe you can get the future husband to help out. Have him get a copy of the guest list to the wedding and start with them for information and guests. Good luck.
Reply:You can put together a "shower in a box" and send it or take it to the bride to be. Put everything in numerical order as she should open things up. Include some decoration things, a drink or two of the airplane size liquor of whatever drink you choose for her and a few nice little gifts. She will have fun and you are off the hook for planning a party for people you don't know!
Reply:Have a simple get together with the step-mom and ask the step mom if there is anyone she thinks should be invited.


If the bride has any close friends then they should be invited.


Let the bride know of your plans for a a small get together


and ask for her suggestions.


Everything will work out GREAT.


Don't worry.
Reply:If you have time throw her a small intimate lingerie shower, but a normal wedding shower is not something you should feel obligated to throw for a second wedding
Reply:It depends if it a small wedding party. bridal shower are not a surprise. Bridal shower is about a week or two before the wedding. The bridal party is usually the ones that throw the bridal shower, so, go to the dollar store to buy some gifts to give to the guests who win games at the bridal shower. If money is tight then cook some fried chicken, spagetti, a seven layer salad,rolls and a nice cake from a bakery. Play some bridal games and don't forget to hire a male dancer for the bride! Have Fun!