Rude to only have two kids at the bridal shower?

i am only letting my flower girl and my junior bridesmaid come to the bridal shower..do you think its rude to not let everyone elses kids come because these two will be there? they are 5 and 10...and i'm not gonna let anyone under 18 there beside them..because everytime kids from my side of the family are around its chaotic(spelling?). i just want to know your opinion..but it would be probably about 20kids alone with my side of the family..

Rude to only have two kids at the bridal shower?
Yes, showers would be boring for little ones and then


they would get carried away, running around, etc.


Just have the 2 in your bridal party and if people don't


like it they don't have to attend! Showers are for


adult females only!
Reply:it's not entirely rude. You could have the kids come to the shower but not the wedding. At the wedding have the flowergirl and junior bridesmaid. At my aunt's wedding which was 17 years ago, I wasn't invited because I was 3 but my 7 year old brother was allowed to go because he was the ring bearer. Also, I believe anyone who was 5 and up were allowed to go but besides that no younger kids.
Reply:If you want to invite the two little girls that are in the wedding party, that's fine because they are "special". But I wouldn't make any exceptions for any other children, including the ones that you babysit for. You're mother's right, if you invite other children, that don't really have a reason for being there, you're just going to upset your family members that couldn't bring their kids.
Reply:Typically, showers are adult events. They aren't much fun for children anyway. Also, who is planning your shower? Would they be able to handle an additional 20 people? Is the site big enough, can they afford the food to feed the extra kids?





You mention you don't want to have any kids at your wedding (which there is nothing wrong with that), however, if someone is invited to the shower, it is VERY VERY VERY rude not to invite them to the wedding as well.
Reply:If I were you, I wouldn't have even invited the flower girl and jr. bridesmaid to the shower. While I think kids are a necessary part of a wedding and a reception to some extent, I don't really feel like they ought to be included in a bridal shower. A shower is really kind of an adult event. Imagine how bored those kids will be while you're all fussing over blenders and cookware? I would limit the shower to adults only, and if any of your guests have a problem with it, that will have to be too bad.
Reply:Your mothers right on this one, you should invite all the kids or none at all. (the ones in the bridal party don't count, they should be in on anything to do with the wedding).
Reply:there aren't any kids at a shower, it's an adult event. not adult like 'lingerie and sex talk' but traditionally kids don't attend the shower.
Reply:Since they are part of the wedding party that is absolutely fine to only have them at the shower.
Reply:Since they are part of the bridal party, that should be fine.
Reply:as with any event, all kids or no kids at all.


its just incredibly rude to invite some ,but not all
Reply:I don't know as I would have kids at my shower at all. I have yet to be to a shower that didn't get at least a little bit "adult" in conversation. (There's always talk of "the wedding night, ooooh" and some may get the bride lingerie, and then there's that awful game where someone writes down everything the bride says when she opens her gifts and then repeats it in the context of what she says when she has sex with her new husband on the wedding night.) I would personally prefer to keep these young girls out of that. As this is not a party hosted by you, there'd be no control over what goes on there, aside from who is invited.





It's your call, though, so you can send off the list of invitees as you please but the hostess actually gets to decide who gets an invite and who doesn't.





(And if you're trying to host your shower? Stop it.)