Bridal Party Problems?

Theres a few problems with my Bridal party first of all our best man and maid of honour broke up recently and are nw going through a custody battle over our Flower girl, but they both say that their alright standing together, both my maid of honour and one of my bridesmaids (#2) seem to be making things hard because their very opinionated and keep giving me un-needed input. Bridesmaid #2 %26amp; usher #2 got married recently and her parents paid everything they had a big fancy wedding catered and everything. We want to keep ours simple and familys going to help with food but they don't seem to get that. Also the maid of honour and the new wife (bridesmaid) are planning my Bridal shower with 25 ppl which I've told them they can have at my house and I've done the invitations but the bridemaid doesnt seem to like that idea and wants to rent a hall and go all out without asking the rest of the bridal party if they agree and with the custody battle and everything I told them I would like to help

Bridal Party Problems?
Just a couple of thoughts for you ... first off, with the unsolicited input. If people are offering suggestions for you about your wedding that you don't agree with, just thank them kindly for the idea, and either tell them that this area has already been settled or agreed on between you and your fiance, or that you will take their idea into advisement when you make your decision. You're either placing the issue as settled already, or letting them know that you appreciate their input, but will be making the decision yourself (or with your fiance).





As for the showers and things ... I completely understand that you don't want them to 'go all out' for you, but realize this: you cannot control the choices they make (any more than they can control yours!). I had some of the same concerns for my two bridesmaids when they threw me a bachelorette party, but ultimately what I had to realize was that it was their decision. As long as you make clear to them that you do not EXPECT them to do anything extravagant (especially considering their present circumstances), you can just leave it at that. They are adults, and they will do for you what they decide to do - just try to see it as their way of showing how special you are to them, and don't worry about it.
Reply:Elope. You have way too many issues here to have a happy day!
Reply:You are going to get pictures right? Because in these pictures are going to memories of your wedding day and you need people you are comfortable with and who are going to leave you good memories.


Your happiness is at stake so hold an emergency meeting and tell them straight up if they don't cut the drama, they're OUT.


You need happy memories of one of the most important days of your life, not bad or drama filled. whoevers making a deal over your simplicity, just tell them you're not trying to keep up with the jones' and this is Y.O.U.R. Wedding.


Seems that your maid of honor and best man are being Great, putting their life's issues aside for you, Not alot of people would do that and I'd get them something special(if affordable)





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Goodluck and I hope this helps in some manner!


Congratulations too ^_^