Bridal shower etiquette?

my shower is this sunday!!


my bridesmaids are hosting it... with some input and $ from the 2 mothers (mine and his). i put together little baskets of stuff for my girls as a thank you.. should i give the mothers something too? what about the 2 flower girls? also when do i present these baskets to them? in front of everyone? or afterwards? also do i need to make a speach? i know my MOH plans on giving one.. do i also besides thanking everyone for coming? should i introduce my girls or have my MOH introduce them? please help! i want answers based on proper etiquette, or tradition, not "its your shower you do as much or as little a you want"... what are rules of thumb.. what do the etiquette books say?


and any other tips??


thank you all so much...

Bridal shower etiquette?
Speak with your bridesmaids and ask if there's anything they want you to bring/prepare for (like a speech or whatnot). They may likely already have an organized plan for ice breakers/introductions/activities. If during the shower you notice that people are not properly introduced, then you can quietly suggest to your MOH/hostess(es) to take some time for intros.





The gift baskets are a good idea...I would give them to whoever planned/hosted the shower, and the moms. You can give it to them at the shower whenever you can find some quiet time (usually after/before)...you don't have to hide the gifts from the other guests, but don't announce it or make a big show of it. If the moms are not the main organizers, I would just get them small things (then give nicer gifts at the rehearsal dinner). You can give the flower girls gifts at the rehearsal dinner.





You can make a speech at or near the end of the shower before people start leaving. Thank everyone for coming, especially out of towners (wish them a safe trip home), and thank the hosts, etc.
Reply:Gifts for attendants are usually given at the rehearsal dinner, but I think giving your girls thank you gifts for the shower is sweet.


I would wait until everyone else is gone and it's just your girls and your mothers, that way no one is left out and no awkward moments.


I would get your mom's something small, even a small bouquet of spring flowers.


I'd leave the kids out of it for now, maybe a colouring book to keep them busy at the shower, you can give them that in front of other, it will make them smile.


Have FUN!!


It's a nice gesture.
Reply:I am not certain on the etiquette but I will being giving gifts to my attendants and parents at our rehearsal dinner. I think that is the most common way to do it.