Any other brides out there that don't care about the details?

I am getting married August 11th. The only thing that matters to me is that we accomplish the goal of the day and end up married. Also, the wedding has to be Catholic. We got the church and the reception hall booked. The bridesmaids are all picking their own dress (Apple Red from David's Bridal). The rest is irrelevant to me. I just want everyone to have fun. I don't want to worry about the DJ's "play list" or "do not play" list. i don't have a favorite song. It doens't matter if the cake has doves, bells, or cherubs. I want it to look nice and like a wedding... but worrying about all these details would drive me nuts. I say, avoid the fights and if someone offers to do something... like pick out the cake or flowers, let them do it. Am I the only one that feels this way? How am I going to get everything done if I have no real set vision of how I want things?

Any other brides out there that don't care about the details?
I am SO with you!!!! I'm getting married in September--planning things from Alaska getting married in North Dakota. I just want to get married and have a great party for my friends and family from home and my new friend here to enjoy. We are also getting married in Catholic church. Our DJ is a good friend of mine, so I'm not at all stressed about that :) but as far as the cake? flowers? Ok Its a wedding I know i have to have them, but as long as they are pretty I couldnt care less whats in the bouquet or on the cake.





I wish I could let my bridesmaids pick their own dresses.... but my fiance thinks it looks better when they all wear the same dress so that's one thing i do have to settle on myself.





I know what u mean about not having a set vision---especially when you talk to family or friends or especially people in the wedding industry. I kinda just want to say here's the money we have just make it pretty. Think that would go over well???





Good Luck with your wedding. I'm sure it will be a wonderful day!!!
Reply:In my opinion, that's a good way to be. That means you haven't lost the important meaning of getting married :)
Reply:my fiance says the same thing to me... I'm with you I dont care about every last detail I think that is why I have not gone all bridezilla on everyone... I'm with you I want things nice but the dresses I dont have a set one... my sister is prego so I just told them to all pick something they are comfortable in... we are getting married july 7.... I'm making my flowers so I dont have to worry about the headache of someone else messing them up... Honestly just have fun that is what my mom keeps telling me... I told my fiance I dont care about the actual wedding mine is the reception and that everyone has fun... it is ur wedding so do what you want and just have fun...
Reply:No, you aren't alone.


I am preparing to marry a couple where the bride is similar to this. She didn't even want a 'wedding' per se`, but her fiance does. So they have found "the perfect place", found me %26amp; the rest is as you say, irrelevant.





There are some who try to make this event perfect; which can't be. Something will go wrong. And those that have tended the minutest details will have their wedding spoiled because one of the candle's flame isn't as bright as the others.





There is nothing wrong with wanting a wonderful wedding %26amp; having it go smoothly, but you also must keep your sense of humor.





Too often we get so wrapped up in the planning we forget that a wedding is all about committing your life to this one special person.
Reply:You could always do what I did 17 years ago. I felt the same way you have described here. As long as everything was nice and the guests had a great time that was what mattered the most. My husband jokingly said that we should elope and I agreed with him. The families finally got over not being involved. But the stress level was reduced so much that we were able to enjoy our special day together. After we got back from honeymoon we then threw a back yard BBQ party for the reception. We made sure to tell everyone that dress was casual and that gifts were optional.





The families finally got the picture that it was OUR day and we did it OUR way. They got over being upset and enjoyed the party with us. Maybe you should talk to your fiance about this possibility. It could make your life alot easier.





Good luck and congratulations!!
Reply:That was my idea--all I cared about was not having to stress over what I consider stupid things--who sits where at the reception and all that. The only thing I want for myself is to wear a wreath of flowers on my head (no veil) and I want a particular wedding cake (sea blue with shells on it, and orange cake with pineapple filling). My ifance is hot on certain topics, which he is handling (he booked our reception, including menu) and we will leave the rest to work itself out as simply as possible. I don't care about the flowers, the dj or too much else.





For this reason, we're getting married (family only) on St Thomas and having a clam bake for a reception later on at home. People can come in shorts-no ties! and eat steaks, clams and good bbq food, and we'll have a dj and games-very laid back and relaxed
Reply:Good for you! Focus on the forever and enjoying life, rather than the icing. It will be beautiful no matter what!
Reply:I think that is awesome!





I have seen many Brides who are nothing but stress cases dealing with wedding details. At the end of the day, if you are married and had fun, that is all that matters.
Reply:I am getting married in September of this year. I too am finding myself not really caring about any details. I haven't picked out colors or flowers, or bridesmaid dresses or where to have the wedding. I feel the exact same way as you do. The funniest thing about mine is we have been together for 7 years by the time we get married and you would have thought I could have figured this out in that amount of time. I know what I really don't like but really don't know what I like. It is very frustrating. So I am here to let you know you aren't the only one.
Reply:yeah, finally!


You have my thoughts exactly! Have fun...If there is a mess up, everyone will remember it and then think, you know that was such a fun and memorable wedding...


good luck and keep it real
Reply:You are a breath of fresh air. I bet things are going so much more smoothly for you, than for the kind of girl who throws a hissy fit over every little thing and threatens to sue everyone from her Maid Of Honor to the guy who carries in the flowers. And you are making it a lot easier on the people who have to deal with you too.
Reply:I think the best way to have a "set vision" for your wedding is to create a budget. Even if someone else is picking up the tab, you need to have an idea of how much you can spend.





That said, you don't need to have everything that the bridal mags recommend (like the doves on the cake, ice sculptures, imported fabrics wrapped around each chair, etc...) For example, decorating with "in season" flowers, silk greens from a fabric store, clear Christmas lights and candles may be all you need for decorations. Oh, and skip the favors and elaborate centerpieces. Few people will notice them anyway.





In terms of music, you may want to hire someone (*don't* ask a guest to do it!) to play a bunch of burned mixed CDs or run an IPod. The best thing about playing your own music is that you know you like it and you might save some money. Otherwise, bite the bullet, hire a DJ and go over the song list. It may take, what, 30 minutes?





Letting people pick stuff out for you is okay, but isn't this YOUR day? What if they pick gaudy, extravagant floral arrangements or get a cake in a flavor that you can't stand? You and your husband-to-be need to make these decisions and weigh the advice you receive.





I think everyone will have fun knowing you two are having fun. Don't obsess over the details--it's not worth the stress. Rather, plan for only the things you find most necessary and eagerly count down until the big day. If someone pitches a fit because there aren't doves on the cake, either slap them or ignore them. :)
Reply:Your wedding is for your own purposes. I mean that if you don't really care about all of the minute details than don't worry about them! Order a generic cake and generic play lists. I really need to commend you! Your wedding will probably be the best wedding any of your guest have attended because you are focusing on fun, laughter and love instead of doves, bells and cherubs!
Reply:I got married in 2005 and I planned the whole thing myself and had 200 guests, 18 bridesmaids and 6 pageboys.


It worked because I decided on colours and venues and then just did the rest around them without worrying about the finer details. My cousin did me a buffet for the wedding night, my friend paid for my bouquet, I got all the outfits from ebay and wore a beautiful wedding dress with a huge train. My auntie sorted out the cake for me and my husbands uncle took the photographs and it was a wonderful, wonderful day.


So you do with your own wedding what suits you hun, if you are happy and relaxed all your family and friends will be too and huge congratulations to you. You will have an amazing day x
Reply:There are a lot of brides like you. A matter of fact, that is how most of my brides are. They don't care if the oval napkin ring matches the subtle oval pattern in the carpet. They just want to have a pretty wedding with a few personalized touches with the man they love. A good planner can bring out your personality in your wedding in a way you wouldn't have dreamed. They worry about the details so you don't have to. Planners have lots of options to choose from, but from your situation, you will probably want a partial or full service planning option. You're the kind of bride a lot of planners love to have. Easy going and not super picky over every little thing. No bridezilla stuff! Stay the way you are!